Are you passive or active in your response to life's challenges?
Are you passive or active? States of being and choices
Our thoughts and responses dictate our results.
Have you ever noticed what happens to your emotional state when things aren't going the way you want them to?
How much do watch and listen to your own thoughts and feelings?
If you do, do you take action on them? Any action at all?
Do you let a negative situation define you when the results you experience from the outcome are not what you wanted or do you define your own outcome?
Let me give an example to explain. A person has a lifelong fear of flying and try as they might they have never been able to get over this.They also have a deep rooted desire to travel to all the exotic far flung places around the world. Their frustration is massive and often leads them to feeling powerless and helpless to do something about it.
On its own, they most likely can live with this in the ordinary day to day situation, but let’s suppose for a moment that they have a very dear friend or relative who lives very far away on the other side of the world and the only way to get to them is by flying. Their friend or relative is taken very ill and needs to see them dearly, but the person with the fear of flying, even though they have the funds, just can’t deal with that because they just can’t face the thought of getting on a plane and they just don’t know how to deal with the situation. They simply just can’t face it. This person on the other side of the world means a great deal to them and although communications technology has made the world a much smaller place, they really feel pulled into a difficult situation as they feel such a strong emotional bond with this other person.
There ensues a stream of communication between the two parties and the relationship becomes very strained as the sick person really needs to see their friend or relative and just doesn't understand the other persons fear and eventually comes to believe that the other person just doesn't care enough about them, leaving the person with the fear of flying emotionally distraught and frustrated and with a feeling that life is so unjust and unfair and then they start to sink into mild depression fuelled through guilt and a feeling of absolute powerlessness as they just don’t feel in control of their lives.
The person with this fear of flying starts to feel so absolutely dreadful and becomes more and more deeply and emotionally upset trying to deal with all the emotional stimuli around this dilemma, the feelings of guilt, anxiety and inadequacy and betrayal of the friendship. The more they think about it, the more emotionally tied up in knots they become to the extent that their thoughts, actions and emotional responses in everything else they do start to become consumed and eclipsed by the turmoil going on inside which starts to take over, spilling over into other areas of life, affecting important areas in their daily lifes routines, for e.g. work and friendships. And as things start to go wrong for them in these areas of their life, other things become unravelled too, It becomes like a domino effect as thoughts become things manifesting results into their daily life that are perhaps unexpected and unwelcome and things become worse and worse perhaps spilling over into family life and relationships too
If the person dealing with this entire trauma just submits to everything that is going on and does nothing and becomes in effect powerless to change things through the way they think and respond to the situation then their response becomes a passive response where life appears to be dictating its own terms and outcomes to the individual and they will probably sink down into deeper depression.
Granted life is not simple and many of us face daily challenges in our lives of varying degrees of difficulties, but in the case of this little story, the outcome could be changed by just one small thing.
A change in the person’s thoughts and emotional response to how they are going to deal with the problem.
Just one simple thought in the decision making process could redefine the outcome. The thinking process of finding a solution and of not accepting the limitation of the confines of their fears. In other words facing their fears. The whole process becomes different and the emotional response becomes different as that person become active in their choice about how they deal with their challenges.
Once that choice is made a different state of the experience of consciousness is experienced too. When we are negative and sink into helplessness all sort of adverse chemical and neurological changes take place in our bodies which lead to stress , anxiety and eventually illness.
When we are positive and determined and take action and continue to take to take action without giving up optimism hope and faith, even when times are tough, we experience a different dimension of our state of consciousness, a higher level of spiritual and mental growth and a sense of control, self determination and empowerment in our lives. And for sure the challenges may not get any easier for a while, but in the end a positive outlook with determination, consistency and focus will overcome adversity and keeping our hearts focussed upon that which we choose for ourselves will only bring about that which we desire and not necessarily that which life dictates we should accept.
So just think about it for a little while, just think for a moment or two. Passive or active? Which state of being will you chose?
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Subjects relating to this blog:-
- Emotional responses
- Relationships
- Success
- The law of attraction
- Fears and phobias
